I was in court with my fiancee, and we were in the midst of a lengthy hearing.
My fiancee was in the courtroom as well, and while the hearing was underway, she looked over at me and said, “Oh, I hope this doesn’t get to the point where I’m divorcing you.”
My fiance is married to a woman.
It’s a normal day for her, but on this day she felt compelled to tell me, “I don’t want to get married.”
This was the first time I had ever told someone this.
My mother was married for over 20 years.
I’m still married to her.
I never said anything to my mother about my fiancé’s marriage.
My mom was divorced a year ago, and she had no interest in my fiance’s marriage, even though she knew she wanted to marry someone else.
My fiancé and I are in a long-term relationship, but I’ve always known it was because of her and her family, not because of me.
It feels so wrong to tell my mother this.
Why should she be forced to choose between the love of her life and her children?
What if my fiance and I had children, and it was the only way we could support each other financially?
I’m not talking about a divorce, but a custody battle over custody of my children.
It sounds like a nightmare, but it’s a nightmare for my mother and my children, who I love and cherish.
I hope the courts understand that it is wrong for them to make me choose between my fiancees love and my family, and I hope they will listen to me.
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